有一天，男孩在外头玩耍的时候，又遇到了白兔。蹦蹦跳跳，看来伤口复原了。
其实，男孩每天都会遇到白兔。没谈话，没打招呼。只是，擦肩而过，但，男孩还是会留意白兔。可能是习惯吧。
男孩今天看到蹦蹦跳跳的白兔，有带着悲伤，寂寞的表情。男孩停下脚步，上前问候。
男孩与白兔有说有笑。谈了一会儿，男孩觉得白兔没大碍，表示要到草原去。但，白兔问了问男孩一个问题，为什么停下脚步。
男孩看着白兔回，因为想帮，所以帮。因为想停下脚步，所以停下脚步。有些事不需要太多理由，也不用想太多。已经过去的事就是过去。重要的是，要幸福喔！
白兔看着男孩，没回应。男孩也开始朝着夕阳的方向骑去。
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
Food for thoughts
Quoted from a friend's Blog.
"懂得悲伤的人才是活着的。"
当人不懂得悲伤，那算是个死人吗？
那我不也是个活死人了吗？
"某人说 ：与其鲁莽地与错的人在一起，何不孤独地等待对的人的出现？"
说得好！但，我的对的人几时才会出现呢？
"懂得悲伤的人才是活着的。"
当人不懂得悲伤，那算是个死人吗？
那我不也是个活死人了吗？
"某人说 ：与其鲁莽地与错的人在一起，何不孤独地等待对的人的出现？"
说得好！但，我的对的人几时才会出现呢？
Sunday, July 23, 2006
Female Pillion Needed
Looking for female pillion. Age > 21.
Requirements:
1. Cannot scared of riding
2. Must be female
Gd to have:
1. Love KTV
2. Love to eat
3. Reads japanese commics
4. Knows how to play Mahjong. Even better if know how to always win.
5. Watch Korean movie or Boring Small Production
Benefits:
1. Transporation provided
2. Personal shopping bell boy service provided
3. Personal fashion advisor service provided
4. Personal shopping kaki provided
5. Available personal cushion during graveyard shift
6. Personal IT support service provided
Interested parties please sign up at the comments below and our HR representative will call you personally to schedule for an interview.
Requirements:
1. Cannot scared of riding
2. Must be female
Gd to have:
1. Love KTV
2. Love to eat
3. Reads japanese commics
4. Knows how to play Mahjong. Even better if know how to always win.
5. Watch Korean movie or Boring Small Production
Benefits:
1. Transporation provided
2. Personal shopping bell boy service provided
3. Personal fashion advisor service provided
4. Personal shopping kaki provided
5. Available personal cushion during graveyard shift
6. Personal IT support service provided
Interested parties please sign up at the comments below and our HR representative will call you personally to schedule for an interview.
Saturday, July 22, 2006
365天性格生日书★每天都分析的很详细哦
365天性格生日书★每天都分析的很详细哦
性格分析
这一天出生的人，不管个性是外放或内敛，都将人生视为一场恋爱游戏，或是一场冒险。他们总是过着戏剧般的生活，而且无法抗拒一趟惊险的旅程、一段出轨的感情或是一场神秘恋情的诱惑。
这天出生的浪漫派当中比较外放的人，从不会隐藏他们奔放狂野的感情，所以喜爱冒险的特质是显而易见的。至于他们当中比较内敛的浪漫派则发现，不为人知的秘密爱恋才是天底下最令人兴奋的事。他们经常是害羞而又安静的那一型，态度多是一副“没人了解我的感受”的样子。
这一天出生的人，人生充满着激情和丰富的经验，当他们深陷热恋之中或追寻一段冒险之旅时，会变得与现实世界没什么瓜葛的样子。但是，当他们并不处在这类情境中时，却又再实际不过。所以不论是男是女，这天出生的人都会是最好的家庭主妇或主夫。当他们觉得亢奋时，会紧张得有如虔诚的教徒，或像是吸食了毒品一样。不幸的是，沮丧时也同样会受到很大的影响，所以他们常为焦虑和沮丧所苦。在接受过几次的失败经验后，他们可能会开始渐趋于实际，动机和行动也变得比较隐晦不明而与情人疏离。
爱情运
6月22日出生的人的特征是比他人都有着丰富的感受性。与生俱来的重感情，能明白的把感情表现出来，并去追求无限的爱和安心。
同时，不爱受伤害的心境很强，所以很难突破心防，因此信赖别人须花很多的时间才能做到。也因此往往晚婚，本来就很顾家的性格，造成单身时代经常有焦躁的心境。
对于6月22日出生人来说，家庭和家族才是自己存在的理由，所以有时在结婚后还是无法离开双亲。然而自已也会成为一位坚强，而且重感情的父母。
金钱运
6月22日出生的人，为了要安定感情，往往有爱好物品或金钱的情形。巨蟹座的人尤其喜爱古董，要收集很多，他才放心。
又很害怕没有钱，熟悉经济、懂得节约，对于聚集钱财有各式各样的好机会。事实上他很少有为钱而担忧的时侯，虽然有时候会因无结婚或继承，而成为财主，但是很多时候都是自己攒取财富。
事业运
如果承办房屋或者土地等不动产方面的工作，一定很幸运；如果学会看透他人心事的秘诀，就能当上最好的推销员。感情丰富、忍耐力强，所以能在各式各样的职业上有所成就。
这一天出生的人有内在的艺术细胞。靠容易理解别人的心情或感情的能力所赐，能专心用富有深重感情的洞察力去从事创作。
健康运
6月22日出生的人必须特别照顾皮肤，他们的脸上、半身特别容易长疹子。过敏是这些人的通病。
这一天出生的人多半有敏感的消化系统，而且他们总是不智地去改变饮食习惯。由于非常挑食，所以喜欢或厌恶的食物可能会一日三变，因此在一般正常情况下，最好让他们每日自己准备食物。如果能做一些和缓的运动，例如走路或游泳，对健康会比较好。6月22日出生的巨蟹座，比较容易罹患支气管炎和其它肺部方面的疾病，所以可能有痰多的毛病。
幸运数字
6月22日出生的人受到数字4(2+2=4)与天王星的影响。天王星代表的通常是反复无常而又极具爆炸性的特质。
受到数字4影响的人大都是个人主义者，因为他们通常不会吝于对小事发表他们的大观点，因此很容易引起别人的反感，甚至树立不少敌人──而且是暗箭伤人的那种。6月22日出生的人经常对自己或是与情绪有关的事感兴趣(受到巨蟹座的主宰行星月亮的加强影响)。既然22是一个双倍数字，再加上唯一能加倍后变成22的数字11，在任何月份的11日或是22日出生的人都会发展出一种对双胞胎、巧合、对称和其它有双倍特质的事物着迷不已的倾向。
性格分析
这一天出生的人，不管个性是外放或内敛，都将人生视为一场恋爱游戏，或是一场冒险。他们总是过着戏剧般的生活，而且无法抗拒一趟惊险的旅程、一段出轨的感情或是一场神秘恋情的诱惑。
这天出生的浪漫派当中比较外放的人，从不会隐藏他们奔放狂野的感情，所以喜爱冒险的特质是显而易见的。至于他们当中比较内敛的浪漫派则发现，不为人知的秘密爱恋才是天底下最令人兴奋的事。他们经常是害羞而又安静的那一型，态度多是一副“没人了解我的感受”的样子。
这一天出生的人，人生充满着激情和丰富的经验，当他们深陷热恋之中或追寻一段冒险之旅时，会变得与现实世界没什么瓜葛的样子。但是，当他们并不处在这类情境中时，却又再实际不过。所以不论是男是女，这天出生的人都会是最好的家庭主妇或主夫。当他们觉得亢奋时，会紧张得有如虔诚的教徒，或像是吸食了毒品一样。不幸的是，沮丧时也同样会受到很大的影响，所以他们常为焦虑和沮丧所苦。在接受过几次的失败经验后，他们可能会开始渐趋于实际，动机和行动也变得比较隐晦不明而与情人疏离。
爱情运
6月22日出生的人的特征是比他人都有着丰富的感受性。与生俱来的重感情，能明白的把感情表现出来，并去追求无限的爱和安心。
同时，不爱受伤害的心境很强，所以很难突破心防，因此信赖别人须花很多的时间才能做到。也因此往往晚婚，本来就很顾家的性格，造成单身时代经常有焦躁的心境。
对于6月22日出生人来说，家庭和家族才是自己存在的理由，所以有时在结婚后还是无法离开双亲。然而自已也会成为一位坚强，而且重感情的父母。
金钱运
6月22日出生的人，为了要安定感情，往往有爱好物品或金钱的情形。巨蟹座的人尤其喜爱古董，要收集很多，他才放心。
又很害怕没有钱，熟悉经济、懂得节约，对于聚集钱财有各式各样的好机会。事实上他很少有为钱而担忧的时侯，虽然有时候会因无结婚或继承，而成为财主，但是很多时候都是自己攒取财富。
事业运
如果承办房屋或者土地等不动产方面的工作，一定很幸运；如果学会看透他人心事的秘诀，就能当上最好的推销员。感情丰富、忍耐力强，所以能在各式各样的职业上有所成就。
这一天出生的人有内在的艺术细胞。靠容易理解别人的心情或感情的能力所赐，能专心用富有深重感情的洞察力去从事创作。
健康运
6月22日出生的人必须特别照顾皮肤，他们的脸上、半身特别容易长疹子。过敏是这些人的通病。
这一天出生的人多半有敏感的消化系统，而且他们总是不智地去改变饮食习惯。由于非常挑食，所以喜欢或厌恶的食物可能会一日三变，因此在一般正常情况下，最好让他们每日自己准备食物。如果能做一些和缓的运动，例如走路或游泳，对健康会比较好。6月22日出生的巨蟹座，比较容易罹患支气管炎和其它肺部方面的疾病，所以可能有痰多的毛病。
幸运数字
6月22日出生的人受到数字4(2+2=4)与天王星的影响。天王星代表的通常是反复无常而又极具爆炸性的特质。
受到数字4影响的人大都是个人主义者，因为他们通常不会吝于对小事发表他们的大观点，因此很容易引起别人的反感，甚至树立不少敌人──而且是暗箭伤人的那种。6月22日出生的人经常对自己或是与情绪有关的事感兴趣(受到巨蟹座的主宰行星月亮的加强影响)。既然22是一个双倍数字，再加上唯一能加倍后变成22的数字11，在任何月份的11日或是22日出生的人都会发展出一种对双胞胎、巧合、对称和其它有双倍特质的事物着迷不已的倾向。
Thursday, July 13, 2006
Another meaningful email: A Slice of Life [Love and Personal Power]
When you're in a romantic relationship, do you give away too much of yourself?
This may seem like a strange question; after all, isn't love supposed to be that way? The giving of oneself to one's partner?
Well, the problem with always placing someone else's needs and ideas above your own is that it's not sustainable.
When you fell in love with your partner, you did so because you found some aspects of him or her attractive. This attractiveness forms the core of your partner's personal power. It is what makes them likeable to others as well. You too have your own personal power. But when we love someone, it's natural for us to want to give him or her some of this power. We might consistently give in, for example, always admit fault in arguments, constantly accommodate their wishes, in turn curtailing our own needs and feelings. The problem begins when you suppress yourself too much and too often in order to inflate your partner. The relationship then becomes lop-sided - your partner begins to rely on your submission, praises and assistance, and you start to think that this is what makes you valuable, what makes you loveable.
But do you notice that the more you give in to someone, the more they tend to take advantage of you? Yes your partner may love you but they're human too and can be "taught" over time to perceive your love as this consistent yielding to their desires. Your partner can begin to believe that he or she is really more important than you - more attractive, more powerful, more well-liked; while you're turning weak, timid, disrespectful of yourself and basking in the rays of their light.
The thing is, your partner is looking for an equal, someone who can play off them, challenge them, learn with them, grow with them; not more admirers for their "fanclub". To build a meaningful relationship, you must have a healthy self-image. If you have a low assessment of yourself, over time your partner can come to have a low opinion of you too.
So remember, a healthy sustainable relationship can only be developed if both parties have a high sense of self-worth and personal powers are maintained at equitable levels. You're partners, and you're not an unworthy creature admiring someone far better than you.
This may seem like a strange question; after all, isn't love supposed to be that way? The giving of oneself to one's partner?
Well, the problem with always placing someone else's needs and ideas above your own is that it's not sustainable.
When you fell in love with your partner, you did so because you found some aspects of him or her attractive. This attractiveness forms the core of your partner's personal power. It is what makes them likeable to others as well. You too have your own personal power. But when we love someone, it's natural for us to want to give him or her some of this power. We might consistently give in, for example, always admit fault in arguments, constantly accommodate their wishes, in turn curtailing our own needs and feelings. The problem begins when you suppress yourself too much and too often in order to inflate your partner. The relationship then becomes lop-sided - your partner begins to rely on your submission, praises and assistance, and you start to think that this is what makes you valuable, what makes you loveable.
But do you notice that the more you give in to someone, the more they tend to take advantage of you? Yes your partner may love you but they're human too and can be "taught" over time to perceive your love as this consistent yielding to their desires. Your partner can begin to believe that he or she is really more important than you - more attractive, more powerful, more well-liked; while you're turning weak, timid, disrespectful of yourself and basking in the rays of their light.
The thing is, your partner is looking for an equal, someone who can play off them, challenge them, learn with them, grow with them; not more admirers for their "fanclub". To build a meaningful relationship, you must have a healthy self-image. If you have a low assessment of yourself, over time your partner can come to have a low opinion of you too.
So remember, a healthy sustainable relationship can only be developed if both parties have a high sense of self-worth and personal powers are maintained at equitable levels. You're partners, and you're not an unworthy creature admiring someone far better than you.
A meaningful email found: PARTNERS AND MARRIAGE
PARTNERS AND MARRIAGE
By Eduardo Jose E. Calasanz
I have never met a man who didn't want to be loved . But I have seldom met a man who didn't fear marriage . Something about the closure seems constricting , not enabling. Marriage seems easier to understand for what it cuts out of our lives than for what it makes possible within our lives.
When I was younger this fear immobilized me. I did not want to make a mistake. I saw my friends get married for reasons of social acceptability, or sexual fever, or just because they thought it was the logical thing to do. Then I watched, as they and their partners became embittered and petty in their dealings with each other. I looked at older couples and saw, at best, mutual toleration of each other. I imagined a lifetime of loveless nights and bickering and could not imagine subjecting myself or someone else to such a fate.
And yet, on rare occasions, I would see old couples who somehow seemed to glow in each other's presence . They seemed really in love, not just dependent upon each other and tolerant of each other's foibles. It was an astounding sight, and it seemed impossible. How, I asked myself, can they have survived so many years of sameness, so much irritation at the other's habits? What keeps love
alive in them, when most of us seem unable to even stay together, much less love each other?
The central secret seems to be in choosing well. There is something to the claim of fundamental compatibility . Good people can create a bad relationship , even though they both dearly want the relationship to succeed. It is important to find someone with whom you can create a good relationship from the outset. Unfortunately, it is hard to see clearly in the early stages.
Sexual hunger draws you to each other and colors the way you see yourselves together. It blinds you to the thousands of little things by which relationships eventually survive or fail. You need to find a way to see beyond this initial overwhelming sexual fascination. Some people choose to involve themselves sexually and ride out the most heated period of sexual attraction in order to see what is on the other side.
This can work, but it can also leave a trail of wounded hearts. Others deny the sexual side altogether in an attempt to get to know each other apart from their sexuality. But they cannot see clearly, because the presence of unfulfilled sexual desire looms so large that it keeps them from having any normal perception of what life would be like together.
The truly lucky people are the ones who manage to become long-time friends before they realize they are attracted to each other. They get to know each other's laughs, passions, sadness, and fears. They see each other at their worst and at their best. They share time together before they get swept into the entangling intimacy of their sexuality.
This is the ideal, but not often possible. If you fall under the spell of your sexual attraction immediately, you need to look beyond it for other keys to compatibility. One of these is laughter. Laughter tells you how much you will enjoy each other's company over the long term.
If your laughter together is good and healthy, and not at the expense of others, then you have a healthy relationship to the world. Laughter is the child of surprise. If you can make each other laugh , you can always surprise each other. And if you can always surprise each other, you can always keep the world around you new.
Beware of a relationship in which there is no laughter . Even the most intimate relationships based only on seriousness have a tendency to turn sour. Over time, sharing a common serious viewpoint on the world tends to tour n you against those who do not share the same viewpoint, and your relationship can become based on being critical together.
After laughter, look for a partner who deals with the world in a way you respect. When two people first get together, they tend to see their relationship as existing only in the space between the two of them. They find each other endlessly fascinating, and the overwhelming power of the emotions they are sharing obscures the outside world. As the relationship ages and grows, the outside world becomes important again. If your partner treats people or circumstances in a way you can't accept, you will inevitably come to grief. Look at the way she cares for others and deals with the daily affairs of life. If that makes you love her more, your love will grow. If it does not, be careful. If you do not respect the way you each deal with the world around you, eventually the two of you will not respect each other.
Look also at how your partner confronts the mysteries of life. We live on the cusp of poetry and practicality, and the real life of the heart resides in the poetic. If one of you is deeply affected by the mystery of the unseen in life and relationships, while the other is drawn only to the literal and the practical, you must take care that the distance doesn't become an unbridgeable gap that leaves you each feeling isolated and misunderstood.
There are many other keys, but you must find them by yourself. We all have unchangeable parts of our hearts that we will not betray and private commitments to a vision of life that we will not deny. If you fall in love with someone who cannot nourish those inviolable parts of you, or if you cannot nourish them in her, you will find yourselves growing further apart until you live in separate worlds where you share the business of life, but never touch each other where the heart lives and dreams. From there it is only a small leap to the cataloging of petty hurts and daily failures that leaves so many couples bitter and unsatisfied with their mates.
So choose carefully and well. If you do, you will have chosen a partner with whom you can grow, and then the real miracle of marriage can take place in your hearts. I pick my words carefully when I speak of a miracle. But I think it is not too strong a word. There is a miracle in marriage. It is called transformation. Transformation is one of the most common events of nature. The seed becomes the flower. The cocoon becomes the butterfly. Winter becomes spring and love becomes a child. We never question these, because we see them around us every day. To us they are not miracles, though if we did not know them they would be impossible to believe.
Marriage is a transformation we choose to make. Our love is planted like a seed, and in time it begins to flower. We cannot know the flower that will blossom, but we can be sure that a bloom will come.
If you have chosen carefully and wisely, the bloom will be good. If you have chosen poorly or for the wrong reason, the bloom will be flawed. We are quite willing to accept the reality of negative transformation in a marriage. It was negative transformation that always had me terrified of the bitter marriages that I feared when I was younger.
It never occurred tome to question the dark miracle that transformed love into harshness and bitterness. Yet I was unable to accept the possibility that the first heat of love could be transformed into something positive that was actually deeper and more meaningful than the heat of fresh passion. All I could believe in
was the power of this passion and the fear that when it cooled I would be left with something lesser and bitter.
But there is positive transformation as well. Like negative transformation, it results from a slow accretion of little things. But instead of death by a thousand blows, it is growth by a thousand touches of love. Two histories intermingle. Two separate beings, two separate presence, two separate consciousnesses come together and share a view of life that passes before them. They remain separate, but they also become one. There is an expansion of awareness, not a closure and a constriction, as I had once feared. This is not to say that there is not tension and there are not traps. Tension and traps are part of every choice of life , from celibate to monogamous to having multiple lovers. Each choice contains with in it the lingering doubt that the road not taken somehow more fruitful and exciting, and each becomes dulled to the richness that it alone contains.
But only marriage allows life to deepen and expand and be leavened by the knowledge that two have chosen, against all odds, to become one. Those who live together without marriage can know the pleasure of shared company, but there is a specific gravity in the marriage commitment that deepens that experience into something richer and more complex.
So do not fear marriage, just as you should not rush into it for the wrong reasons. It is an act of faith and it contains within it the power of transformation. If you believe in your heart that you have found someone with whom you are able to grow, if you have sufficient faith that you can resist the endless attraction of the road not taken and the partner not chosen, if you have the strength of heart to embrace the cycles and seasons that your love will experience, then you may be ready to seek the miracle that marriage offers. If not, then wait. The easy grace of a marriage well made is worth your patience. When the time comes, a thousand flowers will bloom...endlessly.
By Eduardo Jose E. Calasanz
I have never met a man who didn't want to be loved . But I have seldom met a man who didn't fear marriage . Something about the closure seems constricting , not enabling. Marriage seems easier to understand for what it cuts out of our lives than for what it makes possible within our lives.
When I was younger this fear immobilized me. I did not want to make a mistake. I saw my friends get married for reasons of social acceptability, or sexual fever, or just because they thought it was the logical thing to do. Then I watched, as they and their partners became embittered and petty in their dealings with each other. I looked at older couples and saw, at best, mutual toleration of each other. I imagined a lifetime of loveless nights and bickering and could not imagine subjecting myself or someone else to such a fate.
And yet, on rare occasions, I would see old couples who somehow seemed to glow in each other's presence . They seemed really in love, not just dependent upon each other and tolerant of each other's foibles. It was an astounding sight, and it seemed impossible. How, I asked myself, can they have survived so many years of sameness, so much irritation at the other's habits? What keeps love
alive in them, when most of us seem unable to even stay together, much less love each other?
The central secret seems to be in choosing well. There is something to the claim of fundamental compatibility . Good people can create a bad relationship , even though they both dearly want the relationship to succeed. It is important to find someone with whom you can create a good relationship from the outset. Unfortunately, it is hard to see clearly in the early stages.
Sexual hunger draws you to each other and colors the way you see yourselves together. It blinds you to the thousands of little things by which relationships eventually survive or fail. You need to find a way to see beyond this initial overwhelming sexual fascination. Some people choose to involve themselves sexually and ride out the most heated period of sexual attraction in order to see what is on the other side.
This can work, but it can also leave a trail of wounded hearts. Others deny the sexual side altogether in an attempt to get to know each other apart from their sexuality. But they cannot see clearly, because the presence of unfulfilled sexual desire looms so large that it keeps them from having any normal perception of what life would be like together.
The truly lucky people are the ones who manage to become long-time friends before they realize they are attracted to each other. They get to know each other's laughs, passions, sadness, and fears. They see each other at their worst and at their best. They share time together before they get swept into the entangling intimacy of their sexuality.
This is the ideal, but not often possible. If you fall under the spell of your sexual attraction immediately, you need to look beyond it for other keys to compatibility. One of these is laughter. Laughter tells you how much you will enjoy each other's company over the long term.
If your laughter together is good and healthy, and not at the expense of others, then you have a healthy relationship to the world. Laughter is the child of surprise. If you can make each other laugh , you can always surprise each other. And if you can always surprise each other, you can always keep the world around you new.
Beware of a relationship in which there is no laughter . Even the most intimate relationships based only on seriousness have a tendency to turn sour. Over time, sharing a common serious viewpoint on the world tends to tour n you against those who do not share the same viewpoint, and your relationship can become based on being critical together.
After laughter, look for a partner who deals with the world in a way you respect. When two people first get together, they tend to see their relationship as existing only in the space between the two of them. They find each other endlessly fascinating, and the overwhelming power of the emotions they are sharing obscures the outside world. As the relationship ages and grows, the outside world becomes important again. If your partner treats people or circumstances in a way you can't accept, you will inevitably come to grief. Look at the way she cares for others and deals with the daily affairs of life. If that makes you love her more, your love will grow. If it does not, be careful. If you do not respect the way you each deal with the world around you, eventually the two of you will not respect each other.
Look also at how your partner confronts the mysteries of life. We live on the cusp of poetry and practicality, and the real life of the heart resides in the poetic. If one of you is deeply affected by the mystery of the unseen in life and relationships, while the other is drawn only to the literal and the practical, you must take care that the distance doesn't become an unbridgeable gap that leaves you each feeling isolated and misunderstood.
There are many other keys, but you must find them by yourself. We all have unchangeable parts of our hearts that we will not betray and private commitments to a vision of life that we will not deny. If you fall in love with someone who cannot nourish those inviolable parts of you, or if you cannot nourish them in her, you will find yourselves growing further apart until you live in separate worlds where you share the business of life, but never touch each other where the heart lives and dreams. From there it is only a small leap to the cataloging of petty hurts and daily failures that leaves so many couples bitter and unsatisfied with their mates.
So choose carefully and well. If you do, you will have chosen a partner with whom you can grow, and then the real miracle of marriage can take place in your hearts. I pick my words carefully when I speak of a miracle. But I think it is not too strong a word. There is a miracle in marriage. It is called transformation. Transformation is one of the most common events of nature. The seed becomes the flower. The cocoon becomes the butterfly. Winter becomes spring and love becomes a child. We never question these, because we see them around us every day. To us they are not miracles, though if we did not know them they would be impossible to believe.
Marriage is a transformation we choose to make. Our love is planted like a seed, and in time it begins to flower. We cannot know the flower that will blossom, but we can be sure that a bloom will come.
If you have chosen carefully and wisely, the bloom will be good. If you have chosen poorly or for the wrong reason, the bloom will be flawed. We are quite willing to accept the reality of negative transformation in a marriage. It was negative transformation that always had me terrified of the bitter marriages that I feared when I was younger.
It never occurred tome to question the dark miracle that transformed love into harshness and bitterness. Yet I was unable to accept the possibility that the first heat of love could be transformed into something positive that was actually deeper and more meaningful than the heat of fresh passion. All I could believe in
was the power of this passion and the fear that when it cooled I would be left with something lesser and bitter.
But there is positive transformation as well. Like negative transformation, it results from a slow accretion of little things. But instead of death by a thousand blows, it is growth by a thousand touches of love. Two histories intermingle. Two separate beings, two separate presence, two separate consciousnesses come together and share a view of life that passes before them. They remain separate, but they also become one. There is an expansion of awareness, not a closure and a constriction, as I had once feared. This is not to say that there is not tension and there are not traps. Tension and traps are part of every choice of life , from celibate to monogamous to having multiple lovers. Each choice contains with in it the lingering doubt that the road not taken somehow more fruitful and exciting, and each becomes dulled to the richness that it alone contains.
But only marriage allows life to deepen and expand and be leavened by the knowledge that two have chosen, against all odds, to become one. Those who live together without marriage can know the pleasure of shared company, but there is a specific gravity in the marriage commitment that deepens that experience into something richer and more complex.
So do not fear marriage, just as you should not rush into it for the wrong reasons. It is an act of faith and it contains within it the power of transformation. If you believe in your heart that you have found someone with whom you are able to grow, if you have sufficient faith that you can resist the endless attraction of the road not taken and the partner not chosen, if you have the strength of heart to embrace the cycles and seasons that your love will experience, then you may be ready to seek the miracle that marriage offers. If not, then wait. The easy grace of a marriage well made is worth your patience. When the time comes, a thousand flowers will bloom...endlessly.
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Relationship is not an algorithm
Relationship is not an algorithm. It does not take in fix inputs and does not have a set of predetermine steps of calculating it. Thus it does not produced a predictable set of results.
Therefore, Relationship does not have the property of an algorithm, thus relationship is not an algorithm.
Therefore, Relationship does not have the property of an algorithm, thus relationship is not an algorithm.
Thursday, July 06, 2006
A Baton!!!
Piccola has send mi this and i shall do it although she refuse to do the MEME of "100 things abt me" which i send her.. :P
[1, What is your name?]
I have many online name since my beginning of internet days. poohfa -> falim -> huateduck
[2, What did you eat last night for your supper?]
Din have any.
[3, What is your job?]
High tech coolie. AKA programmer. just changed a new job so still not sure wats install for me. :)
[4, What do you like to do?]
Being member of OSF, i read ppl's blog everyday. I make myself a rss reader which i knoe who has updated their blog without going to their site and it acts as a bookmark for me. Besides tat, my life is mostly online.
Wen im offline, i read books.. chinese novel (those internet publish type).. books on how company starts, like goole story and of course manga. :D
I like KTV a lot but it is really hard to find ppl to go with me nowadays.
[5, What is you favorite type?]
Someone i can talk to, understand wat I do and stand my crap. The rest are gd to have.
[6, What is your special ability?]
Super gd feel with computer and got in built feelers on my head?
[7, Do you have any license or qualification?]
Diploma, BSc, JCP, Class 2B
[8, Do you have concerns?]
Erm.. got.. but ignoring.. ha..
[9. What is your favorite food and dislike food?]
Favorite: Read MEME： 7 sins of food
Dislike: Nothing i can think of.. I eat almost everything...
[10. Say a word for person you love]
Still searching...
[11, Write 5 people you want to give this baton message]
Decided to skip this.. do it if u wan. :D
[1, What is your name?]
I have many online name since my beginning of internet days. poohfa -> falim -> huateduck
[2, What did you eat last night for your supper?]
Din have any.
[3, What is your job?]
High tech coolie. AKA programmer. just changed a new job so still not sure wats install for me. :)
[4, What do you like to do?]
Being member of OSF, i read ppl's blog everyday. I make myself a rss reader which i knoe who has updated their blog without going to their site and it acts as a bookmark for me. Besides tat, my life is mostly online.
Wen im offline, i read books.. chinese novel (those internet publish type).. books on how company starts, like goole story and of course manga. :D
I like KTV a lot but it is really hard to find ppl to go with me nowadays.
[5, What is you favorite type?]
Someone i can talk to, understand wat I do and stand my crap. The rest are gd to have.
[6, What is your special ability?]
Super gd feel with computer and got in built feelers on my head?
[7, Do you have any license or qualification?]
Diploma, BSc, JCP, Class 2B
[8, Do you have concerns?]
Erm.. got.. but ignoring.. ha..
[9. What is your favorite food and dislike food?]
Favorite: Read MEME： 7 sins of food
Dislike: Nothing i can think of.. I eat almost everything...
[10. Say a word for person you love]
Still searching...
[11, Write 5 people you want to give this baton message]
Decided to skip this.. do it if u wan. :D
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